The Lotus Position (Yab-Yum): A Guide to Intimate Connection

Lotus position (or Yab-Yum in Tantric traditions) is more than just a seated position; it's an incredibly intimate way to connect face-to-face during sex, promoting eye contact, shared breath, and deep emotional bonding alongside physical pleasure. Let's unfold the Lotus. 🧘‍♀️❤️🧘‍♂️

The Basic Lotus:

• Setup: One partner (often the larger or stronger one) sits comfortably cross-legged (or with legs extended if cross-legged is difficult). The other partner sits facing them, straddling their lap, wrapping their legs around the seated partner's waist or torso. Arms are often wrapped around each other's necks or backs.
• Action: Once seated, the straddling partner lowers themselves onto the penis or toy. Movement can be very subtle – gentle rocking, grinding, or slow, deep embraces where penetration occurs naturally within the hug. Intense thrusting isn't usually the focus.
• Benefits: Maximum intimacy, skin-to-skin contact, and eye contact; facilitates deep kissing and shared breath; allows for mutual caressing; promotes a sense of union and connection; can be very grounding and meditative.

Tips for a Better Lotus Experience:

1. Comfort is Key (Seated Partner): Ensure the seated partner has good back support (against a wall, headboard, or cushions) if needed. Sitting on a cushion can also help with hip comfort and alignment.
2. Finding the Entry: Communication and gentle guidance help the straddling partner find the right angle to lower themselves onto the penis/toy smoothly.
3. Slow Down: This position shines with slow, deliberate movements or even periods of stillness, just feeling the connection and fullness. Focus on sensation, not speed.
4. Rocking & Grinding: Gentle rocking of the hips (by either partner) or the straddling partner grinding against the seated partner's lap provides stimulation.
5. Eye Gazing (Soul Gazing): Maintain soft eye contact for periods, deepening the emotional connection.
6. Synchronized Breathing: Try breathing in unison or alternating breaths (one inhales as the other exhales), enhancing the feeling of energetic connection.
7. Mutual Caressing: With arms wrapped around each other, hands are free to roam backs, stroke hair, caress faces.
8. Use Your Core: Both partners can use core muscles for subtle adjustments and movements.
9. Vocalize (Softly): Share soft moans, whispers, or affirmations of connection and pleasure.

Variations:

• Leg Position: Seated partner might extend one or both legs. Straddling partner might hook feet behind the seated partner's back.
• Semi-Reclined: Seated partner leans back against pillows for a slightly different angle.

Considerations:

• Flexibility: Requires some hip flexibility from both partners, especially the seated one if cross-legged.
• Penetration Depth: Might be shallower than other positions, depending on anatomy and specific posture.
• Arousal Level: Best entered when both partners are already significantly aroused for easier penetration.
• Not Ideal For: Quickies or purely athletic, vigorous sex.

Lotus is less about acrobatics and more about connection. It's a position for savoring intimacy, looking into your partner's eyes, feeling their breath, and merging energetically. Perfect for deepening bonds and experiencing sex as a moving meditation. Embrace the closeness! 🙏💖