Sexting Skills: Tips for Hot and Consensual Digital Foreplay

Can't be together physically but want to turn up the heat? Sexting – exchanging sexually explicit messages, photos, or videos – can be a fantastic way to build anticipation, maintain intimacy across distance, or simply add a spicy layer to your connection. But good sexting is an art! Let's type our way to better digital foreplay. 📱🔥

Why Sext?

• Builds anticipation for future encounters.
• Maintains connection in long-distance relationships.
• Allows exploration of fantasies in a relatively safe space.
• Can be a quick, convenient way to express desire.
• It's hot!

Tips for Better Sexting:

1. Consent and Comfort First: Before you send that explicit pic, ensure your partner is into sexting and comfortable with the level of explicitness you have in mind. Initiate gently: "Thinking about you... mind if I tell you what I'd like to do?" or "Feeling naughty, are you in a place where we can chat?"
2. Set the Mood (Even Digitally): Start with suggestive comments, compliments, or recalling a hot shared memory. Don't just jump straight to "Send nudes."
3. Use Descriptive Language: Engage the senses! Describe what you're wearing (or not wearing), what you're doing, how you feel, what you want to do to them, what you want them to do to you. Be specific. Use evocative adjectives.
4. Ask Questions: Keep it interactive. "What are you wearing?" "What would you do if I were there right now?" "What do you want me to do next?" This pulls them into the fantasy.
5. Vary the Pace: Alternate between slow, teasing descriptions and faster, more urgent messages as the 'scene' heats up. Don't be afraid of pauses for anticipation.
6. Incorporate Real-Time Actions (Optional): "I'm touching myself thinking about you." "Just took off my shirt..."
7. Use Emojis (Sparingly): Emojis like 😉, 😈, 🔥, 💦 can add flavour, but don't rely on them entirely. Words are more powerful.
8. Photo/Video Etiquette (Crucial!):
   • Consent ALWAYS: Never send unsolicited explicit photos/videos. Ask first! "Would you like to see...?"
   • Consider Anonymity: Think carefully about showing your face, distinctive tattoos, or backgrounds that could identify you or your location. Digital content can be saved and shared.
   • Teasing Photos: Start with suggestive shots (lingerie, close-up of lips, hint of skin) before going fully nude, if that's the goal.
   • Good Lighting: Makes a difference!
   • Security: Be aware of the platform's security. Some apps (like Signal, Wickr) offer disappearing messages.
9. Know When to Stop: Pay attention to your partner's responses. If they become short, distracted, or say they have to go, respect it. You can always pick it up later.
10. Aftercare (Yes, Even for Sexting): After an intense session, a sweet message like "That was amazing," "Can't wait to see you," or "Thinking of you" provides nice closure.

Potential Risks:

• Screenshots/Sharing: Assume anything you send could be saved and potentially shared without your consent (non-consensual image sharing is illegal in many places, but hard to control).
• Misinterpretation: Tone can be lost in text. Be clear.
• Platform Security/Hacks: Be mindful of where you're sending sensitive content.

Sexting can be incredibly fun and intimate when done right. Prioritize consent, build slowly, use your imagination, and be mindful of digital safety. Happy texting! 😉💬